The Notebook

"I am nothing special; just a common man with common thoughts, and I've led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But in one respect I have succeeded as gloriously as anyone who's ever lived: I've loved another with all my heart and soul; and to me, this has always been enough." -Noah Calhoun


I know I'm about 7 years late so bear with me.

I just wrote a paper about the narrative structure of the film The Notebook and it really strikes me, and about every other woman in this world, as the most simple depiction of love. Though there is an evident conflict in the film, it portrays love as something so simple and beautiful.

Love is not about money, nor is it about convenience. It's not about who everyone thinks is the best, it is about who is best for you. You don't choose who you love, your heart makes this decision. Love doesn't necessarily put a roof over your head, food on your plate, or clothing on your back, but it makes you feel like everything will be okay.

I'm sure not everyone chooses solely based on love. Some choose based on status, others make sure the finances are just right, and some require guaranteed stability. While all of these can make you dress better, travel further, or drive nicer, is it really worth it to live with someone who doesn't make your heart flutter? Is it worth it to live wondering if there's someone better? Maybe for some it is but definitely not for me.

I have seen both types of relationships. I have seen people marry for convenience and for stability. Those are the people who sit in a car and say no words. Those are the ones who eat at silent dinner tables. All they have in common is their last name.

On the other hand, I've seen other couples who are willing to work hard and sacrifice together. Those are the people who know that life together won't be easy but they choose it because they would rather figure it out together. I respect those people. They choose the rough path but smooth it out together.

I just hope that when my life is ending, my biggest accomplishment will be the love story we created together.